This past week, I was chatting with my friend who is interviewing for the job of director at a Crisis Pregnancy Center. She has been away from this sort of ministry for the past 8 years and just recently took a refresher course in CPC counseling.
She expressed to me her concerns about her naiveté after listening to how even more promiscuous the CPC clients appear to be than they were 10 years ago. She said that when a positive pregnancy test is confirmed, typically the girl has to pull out her calendar to see which guy is probably the father. She also went on to tell me of a new trend for young women to have what they call “sex buddies,” though they have a more colorful word for it. These are guys to have sex with whenever necessary but without any sort of romantic relationship at all, kind of like calling up a friend to play tennis.
As discouraging as her information was, today’s article by Suzanne Fields on young women she is calling the “New Victorians,” seems to say that they are doing a 180 degree turn and are making commitments to both monogamy and children. She references the new book by Wendy Shalit called Girls Gone Mild: Young Women Reclaim Self-Respect and Find It’s Not Bad to Be Good. (Wendy wrote A Return to Modesty a few years back.) In talking about Wendy’s new book, Fields says “Shalit tells how teenage girls suffer from sexual revolution fatigue and “hook-up depression.” Raised as children with seductive dolls like the Bratz Babyz “Nite Out” doll, decked out in fishnet stockings and hot pink microminis, they were left with nothing to rebel against except the cheap and easy sex that was supposed to make everyone free. She has tapped a nerve, and receives hundreds of e-mails from young women who thought they had to hide yearnings for marriage and children behind a veneer of super-sexed sophistication. They grew weary of having to get drunk to “hook-up.”
Do you think young women in our culture are rejecting the “sex in the city” lifestyle? If so, do you see Christianity as being responsible in any way for this new revolution? Also, in what ways, as Christian women, do you see opportunities for evangelism because of this movement?